Are the Effects of Sexual Abuse Permanent? Does Anyone Even Care?
Posted: Tuesday, July 12, 2011
by Ken McCreless
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Greetings Fellow Travelers ...
It's no secret that I have problems with certain "organized religions." However, as has happened many times, I was able to glean a wonderful glimpse into the mind of God through such dogmatic endeavor. This time, the glorious effect came on so sudden that my head spun and my spirit went from lowly to soaring in record time.
We all suffer. It is unavoidable. Still, it is so often an invaluable source of growth. What I had learned, and had not really tried before, was to offer up my suffering to God so that others may be blessed and healed.
I have spent so many years trying to figure out why I had endured so much suffering. For example, the years of sexual abuse, and the apparent indifference to it that my designated protectors seemed to have. Add to that the life-long effects of such things, (and yes, regardless of what some may think, it is LIFE-LONG!), and you could come to the conclusion that selfishness is a right.
What does that get you, though? Your life may seem to be easier, but it certainly is not. I once heard someone say that when bad things happen to us we tend to say "why did this happen," when we should be asking, "God, what do You want me to do with this?"
So, after all this profound learning an growing I've done lately, I feel so much more willing to endure the pain of putting my experience to paper. I know that others who are hurting will be blessed by my work, as I was when I read "Through the Eyes of Abuse," by fellow SearchWarp author Deborah Hall-Branch. "Google" this book- look Deborah up and get ready for a real blessing.
My book will come in time. My healing is right on track.
For those of you who have suffered abuse as I have, know this. You are not alone. There are tears being shed for you. There are those, like me, offering up their suffering as a sacrifice for your salvation and well-being.
You are not alone. Please, feel free to contact me personally if I can answer any question for you, or if you just want to vent.
It's no secret that I have problems with certain "organized religions." However, as has happened many times, I was able to glean a wonderful glimpse into the mind of God through such dogmatic endeavor. This time, the glorious effect came on so sudden that my head spun and my spirit went from lowly to soaring in record time.
I have spent so many years trying to figure out why I had endured so much suffering. For example, the years of sexual abuse, and the apparent indifference to it that my designated protectors seemed to have. Add to that the life-long effects of such things, (and yes, regardless of what some may think, it is LIFE-LONG!), and you could come to the conclusion that selfishness is a right.
What does that get you, though? Your life may seem to be easier, but it certainly is not. I once heard someone say that when bad things happen to us we tend to say "why did this happen," when we should be asking, "God, what do You want me to do with this?"
So, after all this profound learning an growing I've done lately, I feel so much more willing to endure the pain of putting my experience to paper. I know that others who are hurting will be blessed by my work, as I was when I read "Through the Eyes of Abuse," by fellow SearchWarp author Deborah Hall-Branch. "Google" this book- look Deborah up and get ready for a real blessing.
My book will come in time. My healing is right on track.
For those of you who have suffered abuse as I have, know this. You are not alone. There are tears being shed for you. There are those, like me, offering up their suffering as a sacrifice for your salvation and well-being.
You are not alone. Please, feel free to contact me personally if I can answer any question for you, or if you just want to vent.
Ken McCreless is just a guy who loves to write, and was born to do so. He is a freelance writer with several projects ongoing, including books and magazines. A huge fan of both irony and history, Ken has dedicated his life and his writing to serve the Lord Jesus Christ.
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Top-level comments on this article: (5 total)Ken, This is a great article and yes, people do care. When my oldest son was in high school and middle school, he was abused verbally (sometimes physically), and it continues to haunt him. In those days, his youth group in our church -- very supportive -- gave him the gas to get through the week as he put it. I pray for the day when he can see it a long-lost memory.
Thanks for sharing this.Hi Nancy, long time, no see!!
I'm sure that a lot of folks do care, but may not know how. The real problem is the victim allowing them to do so!
Growing up is tough enough without such brutality. I'm sorry your son had to go through that, but I'm, glad he has such an awesome support network--especially his mom!.
As a survivor of child abuse (incest) I know only to well how difficult it is. It is hard. I too have a book in the...writing....Devoid Of A Moral Compass. It is life long, I agree. Simple things like when my kids grew up I began to heal because I was looking after myself, my grandchild is here and the wounds need licking...overwhelming. I'm here, as you are Ken. I will say a prayer tonight for us both that we continue to grow with the knowledge that if it be God's will, it will all fall into place and we will look in the mirror and say I know you!Hi Jill, Welcome to SearchWarp.
My children were a great source of healing for me as well; and a challenge. Working with children in the hospital setting was even better.
My book is titled "An Iconic History of an Ironic Mystery." I know God will use it to heal others.
Hang in there, Jill. Please consider me a source of support.
I will await your book with all your insights and comments
It should be good !Thank you, Kenneth, (Great name!!), and Welcome to SearchWarp.
Good? I'm hoping for tolerable!
I think it's courageous of you to write that book, Ken - and it's important for you, and for others who have been abused or maybe are being abused right now. We all need to hear other people's stories.Thank you, Jennifer.
There are so many life-lessons in any kind of healing, as there are many who suffer silently, not knowing there is a way out.
The truth will set us free - thanks for being willing to share that with your readers and to reach out Ken even through the pain will come greater healing by our Lord.... I know it!Thank you, Marijo.
I know it, too! How many are suffering without anyone to understand?
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