Ken McCreless

Abuse Victims Turn to Suicide for Relief. Question- Why Not Suicide?



Posted: Thursday, June 25, 2009

by Ken McCreless
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Greetings Fellow Travelers ...

I was reading tributes to what was referred to as "angels" on a suicide prevention website a few days ago. It seems that the vast majority of these souls had ended their lives after having suffered sexual abuse where the abuser received little or no punishment for destroying their lives.

I know that feeling, and I have many times considered ending my own life. God spared me by giving me a powerful curiosity and a vivid imagination, though. I would reach a low point in my life where I felt I had run out of options, and could see no future for me- no future at all.

I can remember the first time I did this. I would say to myself, "ok, pretend you killed yourself. Now see what you would have missed." The pain and the sensation of hopelessness would always fade, and I would feel a renewed understanding, a building wellspring of hope that would convert to excitement about my future.

If you are considering ending your life, please don't. Whatever problem you are facing can be fixed, but not from the grave. Consider these points.

There are more resources.

Suicide becomes a valid option when there are no more resources left to deal with the pain. The thing is, there are ALWAYS more resources! They may not be as obvious to you, but they are there. Go to the library if you do not have access to a computer, and Google "suicide." You will find people who care about you, even though they do not know you.

You will find that you can get help by email, phone, or in person. Put your emotions on hold for a while and look into this. Here is a link for you.

http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

Death has no "do-over" option

Once you have ended your life there is no coming back, no way to undo the damage. Right now you are on a journey where you can make course corrections. If you commit suicide you will no longer have any options. You will be gone.

You will leave a horrible legacy

Do you really want to be remembered this way?

My point is this. You have been created for a reason. I don't know what it is and you probably don't either. If you did you likely would not be considering ending your own life.

Just re-consider. Take some time for yourself and re-evaluate your life. Weigh the pros and cons and you will find that you have more resources than you could imagine.

I love you. God loves you. We need you.

Ken McCreless is just a guy who loves to write, and was born to do so. He is a freelance writer with several projects ongoing, including books and magazines. A huge fan of both irony and history, Ken has dedicated his life and his writing to serve the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Top-level comments on this article: (8 total)
» left by David Tanguay
 2 years 333 days ago.
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The first time I read an article about suicide on search warp. It's good to have positive thoughts on the subject there are many people out there who contemplate suicide. you are giving them encouragement to carry on. good article Ken.
» left by Ken McCreless 2 years 333 days ago.
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Thank you so much, David. The depth of sorrow that some folks live in is exceeded only by the power of Love to save them. 
» left by Anonymous
 2 years 333 days ago.
hi ken,
 
i was worried about you!
 
my son is going through depression, and is under a doctor's care, and he said the reason he wouldn't commit suicide is because of all the people he would hurt.
 
i pray he continues to think that way.
 
depression is a horrible disease. and it spreads to members of the family like wildfire. my grandfather suffered, my father, his sister, my brother, me, and my son.
 
it's a battle that has to be fought every day, and with each difficult situation.
 
thanks for sharing,
 
my best,
 
sue
» left by Ken McCreless 2 years 333 days ago.
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Sue, I am sorry that I worried you, that was not my intent.
I am also sorry to hear that your son has been hit with this. I know that having a mom like you gives him tremendous power to do battle.
God bless you and your son. I will pray for him.
» left by Dianne Lehmann
 2 years 333 days ago.
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Hi Ken.
 
Quite possibly there is nothing more tragic than someone taking their own life. You might also add this to what Suzy quoted: You are loved, loving and deserving of love. I have always found that to be helpful to me.
 
Thanks for an honest and helpful discussion about suicide.
 
Dianne
» left by Ken McCreless 2 years 333 days ago.
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The degree of hopelessness that a person needs to reach in order to die by their own hand is incredible.
I want it stopped.
 
Thank you, Dianne, for taking the time to read and respond. I really appreciate it.
» left by David Pekrul
 2 years 333 days ago.
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I have attended the funerals of many suicide victims and have seen what it does to the ones they leave behind. It is devastating. I can't even imagine what goes on in the mind of a person contemplating suicide, but it must not include the people closest to them, at least not the ones who love them. If it did, they would put the thought out of their mind and seek help from those same people.
» left by Ken McCreless 2 years 333 days ago.
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I can tell you this much , David.
Someone thinking about suicide can not look at a calendar, cannot imagine tomorrow, has no need to plan even the next hour.
Thank you for your support.
» left by Steve Kovacs
 2 years 333 days ago.
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Outstanding article, further, it says a lot about your character to talk so openly about your own thoughts to help others.  It is a privilege to read your words!

 

 

» left by Ken McCreless 2 years 331 days ago.
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Steve, I am humbled by your response.
I can't say nothing when I know that so many are hurting.
Thank you so much for the kind words. I very much appreciate them.
» left by Jane Bullard
 2 years 332 days ago.
Dear Ken, your life and voice are needed in our midst. I agree with other readers' comments about the positive emphasis you gave this. You point to real hope. It was good to know of the web link you gave, and that caring voices are there. I liked the way you expressed that, too. God bless you mightily, and I pray that your daily/nightly work on your job goes well (a thought from previous comments exchanged). Jane
» left by Ken McCreless 2 years 331 days ago.
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Thank you so much, Jane.
I have no way of knowing but I suspect that a lot more people out there consider suicide than will admit it. I don't blame them. There is a stigma associated with it, unfortunately.
I feel uniquely qualified to write about it as I am proud to be considered wierd!
 
» left by Teresa Ortiz
 2 years 332 days ago.
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Ken, thank you for your willingness to be vulnerable. This surely will help those who are having these thoughts and feelings. Thank you for providing the link that a person can go to. It is a privilege to know you -- if only by way of SW, I consider you a dear friend and brother and I am praising God for you. You have become a tremendous tool in the Master's hand. Love you! Teresa
» left by Ken McCreless 2 years 331 days ago.
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Oddly enough I don't feel vulnerable, I feel empowered. How can I go wrong with such a wonderful group of folks in my corner?
Thank you, Sis, for all the support and encouragement.
 
p.s. Janie says Hello! 
» left by Lorrie Davids
 2 years 332 days ago.
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Very good article, Ken. You had to open up to write it and I salute you for that. I believe what you have written here will speak to someone contemplating their fate.
» left by Ken McCreless 2 years 331 days ago.
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Thank you, Lorrie.
 I have no doubt that someone's life will be impacted positively and that makes it worthwhile.
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